my husband ruins every vacation

WebMy husband ruins my vacation days man rant My husband cannot deal when I take a vacation day without him and its driving me nuts. So it'll take us 5 minutes longer to get where we're going? We do some running around in the morning to take care of some loose ends for husband's work, no complaints while I'm sitting in the car for almost an hour with the boys while he meets a customer (which of course he swore would "only take 10 minutes" and insisted there was no point in me dropping him off and then gassing up the car, getting snacks for the road, etc) before we finally get on the road. He was sending his finding that we had abused my husband for decades, especially when his father started yelling that he was always stubborn when it came to doing as his betters required. I'm only 9 years in (3 married) and I take a mom cation every year minimum 3 days, preferably 5, with our trailer (that I can't drive/tow ) up in the mountains. Any time our older son tries to talk to him, he snaps that he can't talk right now. Knowing narcissists try to ruin It almost ruined our marriage honestly. And it just killed my Christmas spirit. Narcissists try to ruin the holiday season by holding our desire for joy and harmony over our heads so that they can get their way. They make a mountain out of a molehill. You have to be prepared to never be the center of attention. Honestly go somewhere without cell service or him. If you are being love-bombed, they may load you up with elaborate presents, but be warned that they are keeping track. We had no Idea that things could get worse in telling us what he thought of us. He insists we stop multiple times down the WHOLE TWO MILES of beachfront. Happens a lot! Remember this, men dont change just because you want that to happen. Always someone after the holiday getting sent to the ER busted up with proof they had forced him into work at gunpoint and since nobody wanted more hurt they just left it alone. The way they ruin your vacation is that they are either mentally absent and not interested in anything, or they make you feel guilty for not doing something smart. A codependent person on vacation will want to do all things together. If he's not very interested in whatever it is it's non stop complaining, but then denies doing it on purpose to aggravate me in to cutting whatever it is short, or into not doing it at all/him not having to participate. READ THE RULES. His mother had a heart attack at that point and his aunt took her to the ER. By taking advantage of the cultural norms and expectations surrounding holidays or the disruption to normal routines, they can find creative ways to hurt and control. So we end up picking a somewhat generic beachside restaurant for sandwiches. She complains she hates Christmas because its too commercial, but then gets angry if I dont spend enough money on her gift. It took his brother, brother in law the union steward and union chaplain as well as three tsa to stop my husband from killing his father taking him out of the airport screaming he had the right to kill us since he did not say we could cancel his vacation or had given his permission. He stepped out of he drivers seat and took a bull whip out from under his seat and took his coat and shirt off and told the crowd to gang way they had a whipping of a uppity slave to watch. Both women and men can face loyalty dilemmas. It went a bit farther on New years eve when I was a little more than drunk with the family tension at an all time high, My husband refused to talk to us when we called, The security officer told us we did not want to know what he thought of us, since he should have been in Germany. Unfortunately for Bens, theyre being connected to bad behaviour in relationships by mere coincidence and the fact that Benjamin has been a popular baby name every year since 1996 according to the ONS. Hi artistgardener, I'm sorry about your disappointment but don't despair. But so what? Baby, no, come back here, don't put your hand in the toilet! You have to communicate clearly with this kind of person, always letting him know what you want and why exactly you want it. Last but not least, avoid letting toxic people, places, or things disrupt your time spent together. This can help you have peace in your life and survive this holiday season. I'm pissed off at this point and, honestly, my feelings are hurt because I feel like he's punishing me for not feeling well even though I'm trying to minimize the effect my being sick will have on the trip. He had worked for the city and was cut back, then ran for city council and went to work in the plant. We finally find it and it's closed until dinner (off-season hours). Like if he had work and I was done everything I needed to do, he would get angry and passive aggressive towards me. We go and get lunch, which includes hunting around for the taco shop he insists he wants to go to, where we went like two years ago and the name of which we can't remember. Sometimes I get negative or my husband does and if we don't address it, it becomes this. If you want to change something, work it out in adult fashion with your spouse." That individual predictably, in his or her unique way, manages to say the wrong thing, act out inappropriately, irritate others, contrives to be the center of attention, It seems that for the first time in a very long He put his hands at 10 and 2 on a wagon wheel in his fathers yard already with rawhide wrist ties told those there get him tied to the wheel so the slave could properly be whipped. Does it seem like your wife, girlfriend or ex ruins every holiday and special occasion? So what? What If Your Husband Says You Dont Do Enough Around The House? At first husband tells me to go back to sleep, he'll take the boys down to the free breakfast and for a walk on the beach so I can grab an extra hour - sweet! This holds true regardless of what holiday or holidays youre celebrating or even if youre not celebrating at all. Two years latter thinking he was going to hear our marriage was dissolved, that he was out from under the court and able to finally take a day off, He stood in the court when threatened with contempt and told everyone there he had nothing but contempt for the lot of us and walked out saying go ahead jail him he would like the rest. I stepped out of my bedroom right into my husbands chest In a brand new outfit I was going to wear to the dinner that evening, I knew i had to do something to go with the group and started telling my husband I had promised his father to go that evening. The "Happy Holidays" season has just begun, make it the best you can. I ended up feeling like I could never sit down and relax around him and he apparently thought I just had it made and his life was sooo awful. Private planes, suites in 5 star hotels, etc. We have been married 25 years and a I was in orange and white strips in the county jail until labor day. Create and Santorini, I was planning to suggest to my husband we could return and go to Egypt, Minorca, a few months after he was sent home from the rehab, and we could find a way to work out everything in the new dynamic of his situation, but we had to do it with a family consensus, I was not allowed to talk to him and instead started seeing a old boyfriend, I felt that the last thirteen years was just a divorce without edict since he hated me and his father and was not going to entertain any peace offering. I will NEVER receive an apology..I dont expect it.not from a narcissist.I did write her a letter (not mean but honest..)telling her that I will have to keep my distance from her for a while . It is the time when happy couples renew their relationship, deepen their closeness and make beautiful memories. Sorry, love. Another reaction may be that he becomes silent, withdraws into himself, and thus quietly shifts the blame for his dissatisfaction to you. Although such behavior often does not seem particularly worrisome at first glance, it may indicate So I give up and say fine, we'll go home (at this point he's spent 30 minutes arguing with me anyway). I honestly don't know if he does it on purpose but my OH manages to ruin every occasion you could think of. Considering last years birthday was so terrible there was some pressure on this one. Im also better at managing my time so he would get so annoyed if something took him longer than me. There was the frustration, the anger, the display of "can't wait til this is over" mentality. I DREAD going to my inlaws for the holidays and my husband doesnt care. His steward told us he had worked his last holiday. I was spoiled growing up in that my parents were right out of a "movie set". In 2003 I gave his father his passport to lock in his safe deposit to stop him from the Ireland trip to keep his father happy, I left a note to please just make a list of what he would consider for the time after the new year or better yet just talk to his foreman get the time arranged for and then make the reservations just not any place cold He would get his passport back before the new year and nobody had to be beaten to a bloody pulp if he would just keep the peace about choosing something else after the new year, In that note I said there had to be a way to stop the impasse. I offered to pay for a hotel room for my mom who still has my two younger siblings at home and my dad who has been acting like a whole weirdo during shutdown and everyone is driving her crazy I feel so bad for her. When he really cant get you out of sync, hell look for another victim for his outbursts of discontent. It turned out he had a MRSA abscess in his spine that partially crushed and severed the cord Crippling my husband I was hoping the day they medically retired him on the second of January 2010, After his spine was fused and he did not have Nerve impulse from the top of his legs down We were told he would be under antibiotic treatment for nearly the next seven months, With the harsh antibiotic came other problems like CDiff. Man he is being so passive-agressive. He can stay out for hours hanging with his boys in the freezing cold and rain, and never utter a single complaint, but heaven forbid we spend a pleasant evening taking our kid on rides and eating fair food. to carry the 1yo) and that he just wants to get to the car and I'm TOTALLY DISREGARDING how shitty he feels because all I care about is getting my own ice cream. Jerk. Husband resists, says he's not really hungry, asks the 4yo if he's hungry (who says no even though in the car he was complaining about being hungry), argues mildly with me about it before finally agreeing to have lunch. I feel devastated. I was just trying to see a young couple get a better start in their marriage than we had 28 years before because it now hung over our heads and had crushed any thing we could have had, I plead please don't send me to prison I would forget the society needs and they would have to fend for themselves from then on. I'd been so looking forward to it. I had a go at him about not getting anything for the kids to give me..not even a card- as I think this is absolutely wrong- but he just never does! his father had not slept well on the rollaway in the front of their room He took the other mans room and I spent the night with the man that escorted me. Misunderstanding What Validation Is He said I was ungrateful. I have a friend who is a vulnerable narcissist. Even when there is no chaos to engineer, they can still use the holidays to manufacture emotions and they do benefit from the emotions of others. So its not like we had different ideas of what spouses should do for one another or anything, he was just being an ass. Sometimes the opposite of #4 will happen when it comes to gifts. I try my best to ignore his attitude and not ruin my and our daughters fun, but he will go to the lengths of making the trip painful, and we always get in a fight about something. I was already sick and crying from the long flight and his apparent hatred of being my husband and being forced to work every day since we chose a apartment In South Carolina. We are bombarded by advertisements showing happy happy families. Almost too good to be true. It's just for you. I am sorry that your husband of all people deflated your happiness with his moods and temper. When the person is finished talking, say: Well, my age is not your business, and please dont ask me again.. My Ben stage caused permanent trust issues, insists another. But then of course the reality of having two small children in a hotel room sets in: "4yo, put your pants on. That same girl with only two years to my husbands 11 and a half years was wanting that slot so she could marry in Rome. It would be kind of you to consider your spouses degree of stress. Hi, this is going to sound trivial, I suppose. Then this morning, he comes downstairs, sees me relaxing with my iPad and coffee and immediately starts whining about how he wishes he could have today off. During arguments, you will hear about how much they cost. Your husband ruining your every vacation together can mean a lot of things. And if he likes the destination when you go there, then you can expect him to want you to always go to the same vacation spot because he hates change. Their histories sometimes are not truethey make up entire personas of things that didnt happen to them, or exaggerate or project their own behavior onto others in their past and then use those events on those with whom they interact with currently in order to get away with their new behaviors. Maternity leave is HARD WORK. You might not be able to save this special day from being ruined, but these steps may help you feel empowered to survive it. On the fifth I was on my knees pleading just wait for the next bid list in two weeks let the four that wanted that new department have it. I'm taking the Christmas lights back to Lowes, if he will ever give me the receipt, which I asked for I give up trying to celebrate anything since he always ruins it for me, anniversaries, Christmas, Thanksgiving, my birthday and the forth of July. My husband started ruining the holidays as far back as 1985. They would rather be the cause of your unhappiness and misery than not be the center of your attention at all. After his return from the Navy's submarine service 3 and a half years. Baby, how'd you get one of Mommy's earrings?!?!" No judgments, no nastiness. Why does it have to be about him and his wants and needs? You will hear about those gifts for the rest of the relationship. We want OP to feel loved, and not in a tough way. Im starting to get less patient.I have been a very good friend to her over the years but this latest episode wasnt necessaryespecially with what we have all been through with the Pandemic. Although such behavior often does not seem particularly worrisome at first glance, it may indicate there are certain problems in your relationship that you have not resolved. If your husband hates change and is a big fan of routine, as much as a vacation is a great thing for him, there is always resistance. He had talked about buying a new computer for a couple of weeks prior, and I told him mine still worked and I didn't want or need a new one (about 8 times). They are Good on you, John. Dear god, yes. Their behavior is designed to please to appease and counter to control. Narcissists may make plans with you to go to your parents home for a family celebration but cancel last-minute. Welp, as it always happens, I woke up the morning we were to leave feeling like utter dogshit. I was concerned when you said your husband has a temper problem. The worst part? It's sitting on the dining room table. On November the 5th it had been one incident after the next with first his father and the county commissioner yelling at him to pull his bid for a new plant, New job position, and shift. How to deal: Stand by your choices -- and stand by your man. he would start respecting his and the other people of influence in the county and what they decided he could do. Hi, this is going to sound trivial, I suppose. A hotel room to myself? every time I or his father intimidated him or caused him to work time he should have off he was going to hurt us in 2006 about the trip to Scandinavia he kept his promise at the airport door telling me as i retched on the floor after he kicked me in my belly and hit his father so hard he landed ten feet away as I begged holding my stomach stop hitting us and just do as he pleased those holidays of 2006 his area manager would not allow any one off until things could be sorted out without seeing someone else hurt or jailed My husband did not give up his position even with the union pleading just try some other options why was having his choice so important and he made the whole department work redoing the inventory and virtual cribs One union official told us he had made what should have been the best department in his plant to work in so Toxic over getting his time off the way his high seniority could get it they could not keep any one working in it. He said all he had to do was use the options offered, if he wanted stinking time off. For whatever reason, he's flat-out refusing to consider letting me take a quick nap and then continuing on with our trip as planned and wants to torch the whole thing. I say fine, forget it, if it's that damn important to him that we get back to the car let's just go, he of course starts arguing that I wanted my ice cream so we have to go get it (because MARTYR), I just walked away back to the car, closed my eyes and slept the rest of the way home without saying another word to him. However, when we establish a fantasy I have had to distance myself from her before because of her behavior. We got home two hours later, he does the whole contrite "I'm sorry I was an asshole, I don't know what my problem is" routine that frankly isn't effective the third time in less than 12 hours. One of the healthiest strategies for dealing with family drama during the holidays is to protect your actual holiday if you can, says Campbell. However, this year, set spending limits for your vacation budget. I told him my laptop worked fine, and I didn't need a new one. Man I am exhausted just reading about it! I was doing that at his fathers and other influential people in the community. Since they jumped him there was only the castle doctrine applied as families cried. I guess people who have to commute to their 9 to 5 jobs are just living in hell, right? However she hasn't even met him and Make all kinds of derogatory comments about him like he's a great jobs, and a good home we bought a year ago). That day we returned in 1987 hoping for a little understanding about if he just bumped over 100 other people back in their vacations all it would do was cause bad feelings just to go to his grandfathers in Wyoming to jump on horseback and help with a roundup for a week then after that point the nose of the van west to what he wanted to see for five more weeks. After awhile (I can be slow lol) I Thank you and take care. Why couldn't he just be man enough to accept he was never going to be allowed his way and just do as he was told for every ones good. Please keep yours, at least in your heart. It turned out I was the smartest one of the bunch. THE WHOLE FUCKING THING WAS HIS IDEA AND HE SPENT THE ENTIRE TIME COMPLAINING. He said they had requested he go into the hospital for tests since the ER could not find the problem. You didn't do anything wrong, we just have asshole lurkers/downvote bots stalking our /new queue. I remind him that we promised our 4yo that he could play in the sand/water for a little while, husband reluctantly agrees to give him a chance to do that, spends the next 30 minutes hurrying us through our fun, then goes to rent the cart. He bought me roses and actually bought me a gift (he didnt buy me one last year). It was filled with dog leavings out of yards and had to be pitched in the trash. When the ER found his EEG all over the place an MRI was done and a tumor was found on the top of his brain stem and he suffered from Hydrocephalus that night in a 25 hour surgery that his father screamed was to be done when nobody else needed the time off they stopped the brain swelling and removed the tumor. Both she and you know that he will still have a good time in the end, so why would you let him spoil your vacation and yourself. Let him enjoy the fact that everything is his way. It might not be the same but it would start a way to peace and nobody else would end up going to the ER. And of course our two boys (13m and 4y) are coughing and congested as well. Dont let him make you feel guilty about your commitment to work. It became more and more of a conflict. The next morning his mother and I waited for him to find out what he would consider for peace He walked past saying he was tired and was not going to hear of any thing unless it was ok just do as he pleased and slammed the door of his room in our faces2004 was seeing his father come through the door on Christmas evening beat half senseless and my husband outside screaming come out or call the cops and stop his coming home at midnight. Of course, get him out to the shooting range and he's MR. Reminder to commenters: No. people with narcissistic personality traits. I am sorry for your husband deflating your enthusiasm. Just try it our way just once, he might like it. A deputy plead with him he crushed a friends face in with his own shotgun but since his father and the other three were lowering their weapons if he opened up on them it would be murder. I do it for my kids. The amount of people who call maternity leave "a vacation" boggles my mind. His union president told us that people were trying to stay as far away from him as they could after one of the men went on his job with pictures of his holidays on an International date line cruise with his wife. At that point I'm ready to just go back to the hotel and go back to sleep, but he whines and begs and guilts me into continuing to go with them. We start the walk, he's carrying the baby, I repeatedly offer to take the baby from him, but he's in martyr mode and refuses. I spend the night coughing my guts out. He said go ahead start just don't stop he would rather be dead than continue to serve as a slave. My husband ruins nearly every vacation, but always blames others (usually me) for getting very upset, getting drunk, etc. The five that should have worked including the man that His father had escort me those two weeks. Husband keeps ruining the holidays for me. Mine ruins every vacation and getaway. I was in a conference room in the airport pleading he just give things a chance for a better way than seniority to work and maybe there could still be a chance for us to work things out, His trainee needed that time for his honeymoon with his 4 month pregnant bride. Husband keeps ruining the holidays for me. Then he gets huffy and storms off to work. All the way to his fathers I cried all we had wanted was a little consideration to the needs of others and, he said and never him, just everyone else. But I push through. It sucks a lot of the joy out of the time off I take. 4yo, where are your shoes? Here are some of the typical complaints I hear from clients regarding the holidays: She hates my family and picks a fight the week before were supposed to visit and then refuses to go and gets mad if I go alone. Narcissists try to ruin the holiday season by holding our desire for joy and harmony over our heads so that they can get their way. Oh my God, my family was just like that. My husband complained because I got two months off when I had my last kid. You cannot subordinate your pleasure to your husband just because he wants to be dominant. The more I tell these stories, the more horrified I am at my obliviousness through the years, and my blindness to what asshole moves these types of beliefs and behaviors are. It can feel as if no matter how your relationship has been going with them before the holidays even start, they can find a way to use this time of year to cause additional pain. It can also indicate some of his character traits that are not quite compatible with yours. He was working the inventory on his job at 3 that afternoon when skilled trades could not get him to come to the window to issue a part that was not available in the virtual crib a tradesman climbed trough the issuing window. If you ask them about any of these things, they turn it around on you to make you seem petty or argumentative. I have been telling him for days how fried I am and how tired and that I cant wait to just crash for a few days. They said he couldnt pay them enough to put up with his bullshit. Addiction to anything. Fuck sakes. Well, whatever the reason, theres surely a way to put an end to it. Its also not a bad idea to imagine going on vacation alone and planning in advance exactly what you want to do. The hope was my husband would understand why he was made to work in his place as well as the other four. I just stood there crying was that really what he thought of us for keeping him without a day off all those years. WebPlan holidays and vacations without him. My husbands foreman and his parent company parted ways five months latter after they took him out of the foreman' s position dropping his pay and after his fiance' left him he left for any place but there. Why would the narcissist go to all that trouble to cause misery rather than joy? That would put me off of wanting to take a vacation again anytime soon! "if we leave now we'll be in rush hour traffic." That first year was hell on earth getting him to work the weekends and try and work with others and arrange the time off he wanted without the unions backing him. I'm constantly sneaking to the bathroom to blow my nose so I don't disturb everyone around me sleeping (husband fell asleep with the kids at 9pm). 8 Common Invalidation Methods That Accidentally Destroy Relationships 1. Granted I live near alot of great spots, but I'm sure there is some hidden gems; without service. WebIf your partner is secretly inviting others (complete strangers no less) into the exclusive realm that should be reserved between the two of you, it breaks that trust and feelings of violation usually follow. When they see you happy, they may start an argument. WTF? Do you have any friends that you could talk to that may share your enthusiasm? My Graduation. It was just to stop him from going until his 45th Birthday January the fifth and I just did not fight their decisions. Well,, this year she ruined a holiday by starting an argument about something not worthy of an argument.I tried to explain .. tried to be empathetic but also honest. The fucker was heavy and pedaling it around was harder than we expected. That Christmas the deacon had been caught taking time off that he claimed was church related and he was made to keep his job signing a agreement to work the holidays then before them his father the man that was going to substitute as a committeeman and his foreman a man that felt the contract did not have to be followed by him since he worked for a different company. I asked him what it was. He would have been on his way an hour latter if his father did not use his friendship with a judge to get my husband ordered into work overriding the union contract. At Christmas my husband had a shotgun pointed at him and forced into another holiday to work. I'm beginning to wonder if he does this on purpose, ruin every single holiday and throw me in to utter disappointment and despair! Because of scheduling clashes over summer, I ended up taking my daughter away for a short beach break without husband, and in spite of being cold and windy and having to ride 6km with kiddo in a trailer with a brutal North Sea headwind to get anywhere, and the food in the hostel being appalling, we had a blast because I can have a sense of humour about these things, and it's not about me, it's about the kid, who was having fun. The next vacation was to Athens in 1990 again we returned to his being told he was not taking time off as he wanted but would have to accept our decision of a winter vacation to start on January the 8th. Help a BroMo out and give her an upvote, ok? My husband just told me he hates me, he doesn't care about my feelings because My mother does not want me happy and tries to ruin my relationships, Husband says he cannot have a happy life with me. Have you tried asking your How you frame the invitation is up to you. OH GOD, the whining about crowds. His He was intimidated when he wanted anything he had earned his father and others just made him work to cover their need to have a slave under our thumbs. Now he won't send the computer back. Move on and find someone else. Whether its a ruined vacation, celebration or a holiday season that provides this clarity, it can feel rough, but we need to accept the clarity it bringswhen the glaring Understanding this enables one to have compassion for their ex-spouse. Compassion is important. I had set up the B and B four hours to the north as the hoped for replacement that he was being given by the company adding 2 paid weeks on to the two months he had not used a day of, I found a German sex shop and bought some very sexy things to wear on that two weeks and had the hope after that since he had so much money in the bank and the doubling of the pay he earned since he was hitting everyone over the head with grievances over having to work the holiday. I am so sorry. 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